THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE The loss of loved one is a difficult burden to bear. Every one of us will share this burden at some point in our lives. The difference is for some of us it is somewhat easier because we are aware that there is someone who understands our grief more than any other. The Lord certainly knows our grief. He wept when He saw those weeping over the loss of a loved one.
Jn 11:33-35 "Therefore when Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who came with her weeping, He groaned in the spirit and was troubled."
Because our Lord and Saviour knew the overwhelming feeling of grief, He sought to prepare His own disciples for when they would lose Him
Jn 14:1-3"Let not your heart be troubled; you believe in God, believe also in Me. In my Father's house there are many mansions. If it were not so I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you toMyself; that where I am, you may be also."Indeed, God can be a wonderful source of comfort in the here and now also.
2 Co 1:2,3 "Grace to you and peace form God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort."He is also a source of comfort in the hereafter. Yes, even in the hereafter!
Rev 21:4 "And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall bve no more pain, for the former things have passed away."
In the death of loved ones in my own life, I found God to be the God of all comfort . I found that He provided many avenues of comfort. As I reflect on the passing of immediate family and church family, I find myself thankful for His many comforts. Perhaps you might find these thoughts helpful.
We have Divine comfort.Divine comfort is
HOPE IN CHRIST! As Christians, we grieve, but not as those with no hope.
1 Th 4:13 "But I do not want you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning those who have fallen asleep, lest you sorrow as others who have no hope."
It is comforting to know that, in Christ, we have the hope of resurrection and reunion.
1 Th 4:14-17 "For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so God will bring with Him those who sleep in Jesus. For this we say to you by the word of the Lord, that we who are alive and remain until the coming of the Lord will by no means precede those who are asleep. For the Lord Himself will descend from Heaven with a shout, with the voice of an archangel, and with the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we who are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And thus we shall always be with the Lord."This hope is a wonderful source of comfort.
"Therefore comfort one another with these words."1 Th 4:18
I am comforted when those I knew and loved, died in Christ
HOLD ON TO PRECIOUS MEMORIES
Memories can be a source of comfort.
"I thank God upon every remembrance of you...." Ph 1:3Especially when they involve one's faithful service to Christ.
Ph 1:4-5 "...always in every prayer of mine making making request for you all with joy, for your fellowship in the gospel from the first day until now..."Such memories add to the confidence of our hope.
Ph 1:6 "...being confident of this very thing , that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ."We should feel comforted to have a brother- in -Christ like Brother Luis, who was a faithful Christian and a powerful example of having a passion for Christ.
COMFORT COMES FROM LOVE OF FAMILY, BRETHREN, FRIENDS
One way that God comforts us is through other people who comfort us, with the comfort they have received from God.
2 Co 1:4 "...who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted in God."
Times of loss and suffering, often brings out the best in people. I am often comforted by many expressions of love and kindness from others.
COMFORT COMES FROM THE WORD OF GOD
The Word of God is a source of peace and strength
Ps 119:165- " Great peace have those who love your law" Meditate on the excellencies of the Word of God.
Psalm 1:1-3 -" He shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that brings forth it's fruit in it's season . Whose fruit shall also not whither; and whatever he does shall prosper."
If such was true of the Law, how much more the words of Jesus and His apostles!
I am often comforted by God's words of peace, love and hope.
PRAYER BRINGS COMFORT
Prayer is likewise a source of peace and strength
Ph 4:6-7-"Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication and thanksgiving let your requests be known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."
Prayer is an avenue in which to find grace and help in time of need. We have a compassionate high priest.
He 4:14-16 "Seeing then that we have a great High Priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need."
My heart is gladdened when many people tell me that I am in their prayers. It is so much more gladdening to those who have lost. I am often comforted by both personal and public prayers, offered by so many.
SONGS BRING COMFORTSongs of joy, faith, and hope should be sung.
With hymns, psalms, and spiritual songs, singing praises to God we can edify one another.
Ep 5:19; "... Speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and naking melody in your heart to the Lord..."Co 3:16"Do you not know that you ae the temple of God and that the spirit of God dwells in you?"
I am often comforted and very moved mostly by songs. It provides me with an outlet for my
grief. comfort comes from songs of hope and faith that we have Christ. The loss of a loved one in Christ should be a reminder of how richly blessed we are, and how kind God has been to us.
Yet I am aware that not all enjoy such blessings during the time of their loss. Which leads me to say a few words about the following...
HOW DOES ONE DEVELOP SOURCES OF COMFORT?
DEVELOP SOURCES OF COMFORT BY HAVING HOPE IN CHRIST...Our wonderful hope is for those who are faithful to Christ till death .
Re 2:10 ".....Be faithful until death and I will give you the crown of life."
If we desire to have this hope, and to leave it as a legacy for
those left behind, we must be faithful servants of Christ
Do not wait until it is too late; you will only add to the
grief of your loved ones
PRECIOUS MEMORIES HELP TO DEVELOP COMFORTNow is the time to be making memories, especially memories of your faithful service to God, your kindness to others, etc.
What kind of memories have you been creating lately?
DEVELOP COMFORT WITH THE LOVE OF FAMILY, BRETHREN AND FRIENDS
Loving relationships take time to develop. Don't think only of family, you might outlive all of yours; remember brethren and friends
What kind of relationships with people are you developing now?
THE WORD OF GOD IS NECESSARY FOR THE DEVELOPMENT OF COMFORT
It also takes time to become familiar with the Word of God and to learn where to turn to find comfort, peace, and strength.
Are you familiarizing yourself with the Bible so it can help you in your grief?
A GOOD PRAYER LIFE HELP DEVELOP COMFORT
Prayer is of value only if we are right in our relationship with God
1 Pe 3:12 "For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, and His ears are open to their prayers; But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil."
Prayer is comforting if we draw close to God
Are you drawing closer to God by frequently talking to Him in
prayer?
SONGS BRING COMFORTLike the Word of God, songs comfort us when they are familiar to us.
When we've had time to reflect, to understand what we are singing about it brings comfort.
Do you sing spiritual songs enough to find comfort in them now?
GOD'S GRACE BRINGS COMFORTThe death of a loved one has been made easier to bear because of God's grace.
Jesus died to deliver us from the fear of death - He 2:14-15 The death of a righteous person is precious in God's sight - Psa 116:15 The loved one has finally gone home; if we remain faithful, the separation will be temporary. The blessings that God affords His children in time of death are so many but they must be received and acted upon. We must act now to benefit from them in the future.
Are you preparing for the reality of death? Are you doing things today
that will make the "death-day" of your loved ones (and your own) easier
to bear, even a cause for celebration...?
Amen